When I think about you....I stress myself

I want to be a stereotype. I really do. I wish that I could live inside of the bubble that allows me to express myself freely in a way that is both inviting and flirtatious, but not explicit or derogatory. I find it difficult to express myself to other men in a way that let's them know that I am not some kind of predator looking to overpower them with my man-ness. Finding sexually fluid men and being able to express myself in a way is fun and non-threatening, but it's impossible in my own community. I think that when it comes to straight men, they kind of half-heartedly expect some kind of flirtation. They know it is not going to lead anywhere and they can laugh it off while telling me to dream on. Gay men, they are a different breed though. If a suggestion or flirtation is made in any way shape or form, it is seen as harassments. Generally speaking, unless you fit a mold in queer culture, uneasy flirtation is unwelcomed and frowned upon. Which, I guess, it should be. But I belong to a culture of sexuality. And even though my cohorts young and old will tell you that there is more to life than the sex...it's hard to be seen unless you are sexy. I guess I need to stop trying.